We've all been there before. You feel stuck. You feel trapped. You feel like you only have one choice and you hate it!
So how do you get out of this trap?
I've been talking a lot about the 5 R's of Assessment.
This might seem like a lot, but hold on with me.
Most any project you undertake requires tools. The 5 R's of Assessment is one of the most fundamental tools of achievement.
Because it analyzes and dismantles the obstacles that thwart most every project: the obstacles we, ourselves, put into place.
That's why step number 3 is so important. It looks at the language that we use and eliminates it.
"This is my only choice."
Whaaat? Your only choice? That's not really a choice.
Here's the trick. You're creative. You're smart. You can look at other situations and easily solve other people's problems.
So why don't we do this for ourselves?
Because of this mental block.
The first two R's of Assessment helped clear out the blockage. You...
You want to achieve more. You want to get more out of your job. You want to have more connection in your relationships. You want to win more of your dreams.
We've been reviewing the 5 Rs of Assessment:
Continuing on from our last post about recognition, the next step of the 5 Rs of Assessment is to rejoice.
Why do you need to rejoice more?
Regardless of whether or not your recognition of that event or relationship was good or not so good you need to rejoice.
You're not rejoicing in the event. Because you may be facing some things in your past that you're not proud of.
You're rejoicing in the fact that you took a step back and recognized that you had a moment to assess.
If you've ever heard me talk about the importance of celebrating your wins, you can see that this is the same thing!
The very act of recognition is a win. Celebrating your wins creates energy so you can win more in the future.
This is about living into your best self.
We've been talking about how to use the tools of assessment in order to grow into your best self.
In order to use the full power of assessment, we utilize The 5 R's of Assessment:
Let's talk about the first R of Assessment, Recognize.
Recognizing is when you observe an event or relationship and determine whether or not is was aligned with your best self.
It might seem like common sense, but that's the way it is with so many things.
It's about taking the time and applying a process in order to more systematically and quickly achieve your goals.
So take a step back. Look at the situation or relationship. Remember to take the emotion and judgment out of your assessment.
Be like a computer as you critically analyze the situation. Did the situation or interaction match up with your vision of living as your best self?
For this first step, break it into the simplest part: the recognition.
If you take this first step, you're already further ahead...
It's a great thing to want to change your life!
Too many people blindly rush forward without fully preparing themselves.
There are many ways to the top of the mountain, so you could start rushing up the nearest trail and hope it works out well.
But wouldn't it be more awesome to get to the top as quickly as possible?
That's why we have guides and guidebooks.
For achieving your goals, we have an amazing tool called assessment.
"Assess yourself to move forward faster!"
Let's move onto Tactics.
Here are the 5 R's of Assessment.
And then it goes into a continuous cycle for accelerated self-improvement!
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My recent blogs have have been talking about using assessment as one of the first tools to achieve your goals.
As we've been talking about assessment, I want to focus more on how to assess.
Judging is a core component of assessment. However, let's focus on what kind of judgment we should use: discernment versus judgement.
Judgment can be a heavy word. So let's break it down.
Don't use "judgment" as in "a judge in a court." If you find yourself saying "should", then you're judging.
Instead, let's use the assessment through the lense of "discernment."
Think of it more like computer based input. Remove as much of the emotion as possible.
Use it in the same context as saying "that happened."
When we remove the negative aspect of judgment, we can move toward a place of true assessment.
It allows us the space and freedom to look at the event more objectively.
This is HUGE!
Because when we remove the judgment from our assessment, we can then focus our energy on finding clear...
We've already covered how Assessments are one of the first important steps towards growing into your best self.
How does this assessment start?
One of the ways I start this assessment process is through the following quote:
"Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others." -Wayne Dyer
To expand on this quote, it means suspending judgment of not only others, but also myself.
It doesn't mean that I gave myself a "Get Out of Jail Free" card for some of the things I've said or done in my past.
It was to forgive myself. To learn from my past, instead of continuing to run away from it. From lamenting it. From being afraid of it.
It was to release the judgement and recognize that I'm learning and growing.
Now when I interact with other people, it's a lot cleaner! I'm not judging them.
By staying clean, by staying judgment free, we're able to grow more quickly and effectively!
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Have you ever been unsatisfied with your life? Have you ever felt like life bullies you around and you're helpless to deal with its blows?
Here's a quote that has helped me:
"I made my own assessment of my life, and I began to live it. That was freedom." -Fernando Flores
Why is this so important?
Because it begins to eliminate the randomness of purpose within your life.
When you find ways to assess your life, you begin to compare the current state of your life to your desired state of life.
Imagine yourself at the base of a mountain. Your goal is to get to the top of the mountain. This is an easy example to follow. You have a clear and defined objective: get to the top of the mountain.
Ask yourself the question: am I at the top of the mountain?
If you can still see the top, then you're obviously not there.
What do you need to do to get there?
Obviously, taking steps towards the top. There might be many trails to the top of the mountain. You might not know which path is the correct...
We're continuing with our journey towards excellence.
As you've been watching and reading my other videos and blogs, you've seen me talk about Franky.
This was a story passed down by my dad about a man named Franky, who gave an amazing answer when he was asked a profound question.
He was asked, "If you knew you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do?"
He answered, "I would hoe my garden."
This all ties into larger questions:
The answer to all three of these questions can seen through the lense of integrity.
More specifically: Follow through on your commitments with excellence.
Think of it differently. Instead of seeing your commitment as a bar to get over, repurpose it as a rung of ladder which can help you reach new heights!
This is a complete game changer. It's a paradigm shifter. It's a new way of looking at the world.
It's looking at the world through the lense of...
You want to achieve your goals and dreams. But with what time?
I used to be in the same boat.
That is, until I started architecting my time.
I go into this concept in greater depth in my free video, 3 Ways to Win 2019.
For this post, I wanted to focus specifically on one of my monthly goals:
We all know that VIP stands for "Very Important Person." For me, it also stands for Valerie, Izzy, and Paul time!
What we found is that our schedules can often spiral out of control. As we try to achieve more and more, we often borrow from time with our loved ones.
Rather than working to live, we start living to work.
That's why it's so important to schedule this connection time!
When we make our monthly schedule, we specifically schedule time together.
This way, we can maintain and even INCREASE our bonds and make sure our goals stay aligned!
Not only do we make sure we have monthly goals of getting away, we ensure that we spend time...
Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Continuing on with excerpts from my longer video "3 Ways to Win 2019", I wanted to highlight this quote from Emerson.
Here's the challenge. How many of you have scheduled something out?
You get it perfect. You get the nice planner. You get the nice journal. Maybe the whiteboard.
You get all of these tools...
And then you don't maintain your own personal integrity to see it through?
I've been there, too!
So here's my challenge for this lense: Advance your life, safeguard your integrity.
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