Have you ever accomplished a dream or a project that came at a price? Sacrifice? Blood, sweat, tears?
Think about your dream. Now place it on the peak of a mountain. Ever so distant and yet you’re determined that you want to get to the top.
Maybe you really want to enjoy the view. Maybe you want to enjoy the challenge. Whatever it is, put it on the top of the mountain.
Think of the steps required to climb to the top of the mountain. There is going to sacrifice. There are going to be sore muscles, bruises, and blisters. I want you to imagine being at the top with your arms outstretched in victory, looking at the valleys below you.
You made it.
When you’ve achieved your dream, when you’ve completed your project, in that moment of victory, that’s not the time to regret those blisters. Instead, recognize that it was part of the journey to get to the top of the mountain.
Your dreams, your projects, your goals are going to involve hard work, sacrifice, and some...
Have you ever heard the expression, “If you can’t stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen?”
Well, if you want to get warm, get closer to the flame!
How does this tie into going out and winning your dreams? I want you to be aware of who you are surrounding yourself with? What news are you reading? How are you showing up in the world? With whom are you engaging?
Because LIKE attracts LIKE!
Find those people who are going out and winning their dreams. Find those people who have that future focus, that positive mindset, who are incorporating personal development practices into their lives. Get closer to them!
If you enjoy that warmth of achievement and personal development, then getting closer to those people because it will accelerate you being able to win your dreams! Success breeds success.
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Have you been on a flight and actually paid attention to the safety brief? You know, the one where the attendants say put the metal buckle into the metal clasp and tighten it and loosen it.
There is one key part of that spiel that I want to focus on. They say, “in the loss of cabin pressure, masks will drop from the ceiling.” You are supposed to do yours before helping the passenger to your left or right.
There are parts of society that are so focused on serving others first that in a situation like that, it would be detrimental to their health.
You see, in a loss of cabin pressure you could actually have air pulled out of your lungs and not be able to do breath. So you only have the air you can hold in your breath to get your mask on.
How does this tie into personal development?
One of the lessons I learned in my 15 year military career was that. Before you can lead anyone else, you lead yourself first.
Have you heard of the four R's of personal development?
Before we get to the four R's, we have to start with a concept: your best self. How do you define your best self?
For my friend and mentor Brendon Burchard, he does it in 3 words. Take a moment and determine the 3 words that describe your best self.
When you are aware of your best self, then you can be aware of the times that you missed. Maybe it was a mistake. Maybe you fell back into a bad habit due to stress or routine.
Now that you have the 3 words that define your best self, let's go over the 4 R's of Personal Development:
I spent 15 years in United States Marine Corps. Marines are renowned for how good they look in their uniforms.
Let me give you a behind the scenes about the process to look that good in those uniforms. It involves a little pair of scissors and a whole lot of time.
You see, take all those extra threads that hang into your seams. We remove those by using either a lighter or scissors. You can use either cuticle scissors or super sharp sewing scissors.
When I first joined the Marine Corps, everything visible for my first uniform inspection was perfectly prepared. Then the sergeant came by to inspect.
He opens my breast pocket, reaches inside and pulls out what could be a rappelling rope. It was long enough and thick enough to go off of Half Dome. To my dismay, he kept pulling and it kept getting longer!
I learned in that moment, that attention to detail for the uniform inspection (at least for the USMC) meant to turn the pocket inside out and trim those...
Make a fist. Squeeze it tighter. Tight enough to make your knuckles turn white. Squeeze it even harder.
Then let go.
Do you feel that? That when you're forcing your hand into a fist, like you're hanging onto something, and then you let go... initially as the blood is flowing through your hand, it hurts.
As I've been on my personal development journey, I took yoga classes. The instructor would say, "Let go of that which no longer serves you."
I was confused. I thought, "What? What are you talking about?"
As I continued my personal development journey (and my yoga practice), I realized how many things I had been holding onto.
Just like squeezing your fist, you can feel the pain that it causes you.
What about those pieces of baggage you've been hanging onto for weeks, months, years, or even decades?
If you start releasing your grasp on some of that baggage, just like you experienced when the blood flowed back into your hand, it may cause pain in your life.
Recently, I trained the employees of a corporate client. In the workshop, I asked them, “who are you and how do you define your roles? Not only with yourself, also within your family, relationships, and at work?”
One of the team members said the most marvelous thing. She said, "I am the first smile people hear when they call this office."
It blew my mind that she was aware of the vital role she played on that team.
Other people may be tempted as the receptionist to say "I'm just the secretary" or "I'm only the receptionist."
But not her.
She wanted to be the first smile people heard. Think of all the people that she positively impacts throughout the course of her day. Then imagine the ripple effect that must have throughout their lives. It’s powerful!
How can you incorporate that into your life? How can you be that first smile people hear when they talk to you?
Think about the times you're going to call someone. For example, your cell phone company. Maybe you...
When you smile, are happy juices release in your brain? Or do you smile BECAUSE happy juices are released in your brain?
If you guessed the first one, you're partially right.
If you guessed the second one, you're also partially right.
The answer is actually both!
Why is this so important? Because sometimes, when you're going through life, you catch yourself going through the motions.
Why do we do this? You might not be aware that you’re not in the right mood. Maybe you woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Maybe someone caught you off in traffic. Maybe someone pranked you when you got to your workplace.
Whatever it is, you're not feeling the joy that day.
The great thing is that you can change your emotional state by simply smiling! When you smile, your brain releases the happy juices, which cause a positive feedback loop of happiness and joy.
You can use this as a trigger for a way for how you want to show up. When you find yourself going through the motions,...
For today’s Quick Win, I wanted you to reach out to someone you look up to. This could be a role model or someone who has influenced you. Someone who has affected your life in some way.
You might be tempted to email or text them, but try not to.
Call them instead. We’ve become so caught up in texting that calling will add an extra layer of intent and respect.
Even better, meet with them face to face. So much more information can be conveyed with our body language than texting or calling could ever achieve.
Tell them how they influenced you. Make it authentic.
Here are some prompts:
Whatever it is, reach out to that person and share how much you appreciate them being them!
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